Wednesday, February 3, 2010

10 tips for a better year

"Make the most of the coming year by staying positive and productive."

Here are 10 tips on how to make 2009 a fulfilling year.

1. Set realistic goals
Many people make new year resolutions but do not fulfil them. Make this year different. Write down your goals and be committed to achieving them. Ensure your goals are realistic. List your goals and stick it on your fridge where you can see them every day.

2. Focus on your health
This can be your greatest asset or your greatest liability. Make an appointment for a check-up with your doctor, implement an exercise programme if you don't have one, take vitamins if you need to and resolve to kick unhealthy habits like smoking.

3. Invest in your development
I recently read that people who spend a thousand dollars or more on their personal development will increase their business by 20 per cent. Read books, attend workshops, find a new network, listen to tapes or CDs in your car, take up online courses or enrol at a university or learning centre. Keep your brain active.

4. Know your priorities
After you have set your goals, you can begin to focus on what is important to you -- family, self development, profitability, building your profile, health, gaining new clients or more relaxation time.

Prioritising will help you focus on how you spend your time.

5. Eliminate time robbers
Make a list of the things that rob you of your time. For example, are you watching too much TV, running unproductive errands, checking your e-mail too often or having long phone calls? Can you use long waiting times more effectively?

Focus on controlling your time and get rid of the things in your life that are not a high priority.

6. Surround yourself with VIPs
Find very inspiring people (VIP) whom you can learn from, bounce ideas with and spend time with. Minimise your time with the very draining people (VDP) in your life. You will feel more positive when you are surrounded by VIPs.

7. Plan your next holiday
Allocate a specific time in your calendar for your next holiday so you have something to look forward to.

8. Make time for those you care for
Balancing work and home life is a challenge for most people. Be focused on those you love and do not forget to remind them how much they mean to you. Promise yourself you will not take anyone for granted this year. For instance, each day you can tell one person that he or she is special.

9. Create an "attitude" to-do list
Instead of making "to-do" lists for work, consider creating an "attitude" to-do list you can use every day.

My list includes the following:

* Send a thank-you note,

* Sit in the sun for 15 minutes,

* Find something funny,

* Get some exercise, and

* Choose to be positive.

So, what will your list say?

10. Choose to be amazing
Make a commitment to yourself each morning that you will have an amazing day. This might include trying some of these tips like reading your "attitude" to-do list, focusing on your health, eliminating time robbers or finding more VIPs in your life. Remember life is not a dress rehearsal -- you only get one performance, so give it your best.

Article by Neen James, a productivity expert, author, speaker, trainer and consultant, who has 16 years of management experience in both corporate and small- business environments. Website: www.neenjames.com


Refer : http://jobs.st701.com/articles/10-tips-for-a-better-year.html

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

This Week [5] Motivation

Access to information equals opportunities. With the Internet today, such access is almost limitless but only those who seize the opportunities will get ahead.

Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad

Kampung boy no more

IN a recent interview with Open University Malaysia (OUM), former Prime Minister Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad shares his views on the challenges that educational institutions face and the direction they should take. He adds that immigration policies should be reviewed, as they stop the brains from coming in, but allow the uneducated to work here instead.

Below are excerpts from the interview.


Dr Mahathir believes that a lifelong learning habit begins with a love for reading.

Q: In some countries, going back to school is regarded as the norm. What are Tun’s views on lifelong learning? What does it take to encourage more Malaysians to participate in lifelong learning?

A: We gain knowledge through many sources, among which is, of course, reading. To participate in lifelong learning, one must first love learning and to love learning, one must first love reading.

Of course, we can also acquire knowledge through television but we cannot gain an education just by watching television alone. They say a picture paints a thousand words. Sometimes when you look at a picture, you see not just one but many thousands of words. However, understanding still may not come and so you do not produce.

Reading is different. It stays in your mind longer. You learn when you read. You learn not only the knowledge contained in the book but also the language, the way the book is written.

So, reading improves communication. A person who watches television cannot learn to communicate; a person who reads books can. And communication is one of the weaknesses in human society. The ability to convey your thinking to another person is a communication skill.

Through reading, the process of lifelong learning begins. Once you start reading, you cannot stop reading. Of course, the person who starts watching television also may not be able to stop watching it, but what he learns from television may not be good for him. But when he reads, even if it is only a story book, he will, at least, acquire the skill of communication.

Reading also improves your perception of things and trains you to analyse and understand complex matters. The more you read, the more you acquire the experience of others albeit through the eyes of a skilful observer. Even if you are reading a story book, your ability to solve problems increases because you have, at least, read about it.

I started reading when I was young. Books tell me what people will do in 10 years’ time, they tell me how people think, they predict trends… If you don’t read, you will be left behind.

To encourage lifelong learning, you must instil a reading culture. Lifelong learning starts with reading, and can become a habit, just like reading.

Q: The world is increasingly becoming a global village and more of our young people are working overseas. How can we turn this increased mobility of youth and talent to our nation’s advantage?

A: Globalisation is the trend today. But it aggravates the brain drain in Malaysia. To understand this, we need to look at our immigration policies, which were formulated in the 1950s when people could not travel easily.

We did not want people coming into the country then, so our policies stopped people coming in. We believed our people would not want to go out, so our policies did not stop them going out.

But today, the world has changed. It is now very easy to travel; it only takes about 20 hours to fly to the other side of the world. With this ease in travel, physical borders can no longer stop people from entering or leaving a country. So people go out, especially those with knowledge and skills. Other countries offer them high wages and we do not stop them, so they leave and we lose our best people.

At the same time, we have a policy which actually stops brains from coming in. But we also need workers, so we allow uneducated people to come in.

So, what we get is no inflow of brain but inflow of the brainless.

All this is because we are using an outdated immigration policy. We must remember that in future, all countries will have a multi-racial population. There won’t be a single-ethnic nation anymore. Five million of the people in France today are Algerians. England has many Indian restaurants. People will be moving around, either legally or illegally, and settling down where they like.

The only country that may not change is China, with its 1.3 billion people. People who go to China become Chinese. Kublai Khan conquered China and became Chinese. The Manchus conquered China and became Chinese. There are so many Chinese; you get diluted, the Chinese don’t.

To attract youth and talent, we need to change our policy to consider the mobility of youth and talent.

Q: What is the greatest challenge that higher education faces in the next decade? What opportunities should we look out for?

A: You cannot recognise challenges and opportunities unless you understand what is happening around you. That is where learning comes in — learning helps you to comprehend, analyse and tackle problems.

Globalisation is clearly a challenge. With globalisation, your knowledge widens and you learn to deal with things you may not otherwise be able to.

Take a person born in the kampung, for example. His knowledge of things is limited to what he sees there. Once he moves to the city, he sees and learns so much more. Everywhere in the world, people in rural areas are regarded as less capable, less savvy, less sophisticated. But with globalisation, the kampung boy can cross new frontiers, embrace new values, see new ways of doing things. Globalisation gives the kampung boy a new world to comprehend, new skills to develop, new relationships to handle. Those are tremendous challenges.

Opportunities are different. Opportunities are affected by our ability to access and classify information. In the past, when we did not have much access to information, our opportunities were limited. Today, with the Internet, we have access to information and plenty of facts, but we need to know how to classify and use these facts.

So today, we have the capacity but the problem is, how do we use this capacity? The people who are able to use this capacity will see the opportunities – Google, Yahoo... In the end, seeing opportunities and seizing them, it is all up to you.

Q: Technology is said to have liberalised and democratised education and we must compete on a global platform. How successful have our local public universities been in this respect?

A: Well, they are not too bad, but they are not too good either. University authorities need to reassess their roles. It’s not just a question of giving sufficient knowledge to students so that they can pass their exams.

Knowledge must be viewed in a wider context. In the hands of some people, knowledge can bring about harm. What I notice about our public universities is that not enough attention is given to human character development and nurturing value systems which can help students become useful people in society.

Without the right values, knowledge can even make someone a criminal. But if you are shaped by the education system to become someone useful in society, then education would have fulfilled the greater need. There is a need for universities to strike a balance between producing skilled knowledge workers and people with good moral values.

Q: What is Tun’s perception of world university rankings and the role of universities?

A: Our universities today are much more aware that they are not just institutions for imparting knowledge but also institutions for researching new knowledge. Unfortunately, some still don’t have that mindset. Universities need to understand that their function is not just to transfer knowledge but also to create new knowledge through research, and to write about it, through producing papers. That is a crucial role.

Rankings should be based on the type of universities. Of course, you cannot compare an open university with conventional universities. You will get different results because the criteria are not the same. That, I think, is not important. What is important for an open university is whether it can provide education for people who have missed the boat, and for as many people as possible without compromising on quality.

When I was a small boy, my teacher only passed Standard Four. Later, a teacher had to have secondary school qualifications. Today, even that is not enough. Entry qualifications keep getting higher. Later, we will need more people with doctorates. The progress of society is such that, over time, the level of knowledge increases. So there is always a need to upgrade skills and qualifications, and OUM has a clear role to play.

Q: What is your secret for staying so young?

A: Oh, I do my usual physical exercises and I enjoy horse riding. But I also read. It is something I have enjoyed since young. My father was very strict about reading. Everyday, when he got home from work, he would cough in front of the house and I’d rush to get a book to read so as not to get scolded. Besides, I can do other things when I am reading. That is good because I don’t like to waste time (smiles).

By OUM president and vice-chancellor Prof Emeritus Tan Sri Anuwar Ali, senior vice-president Prof Mansor Fadzil and senior lecturer Dr Janet Woo Tai Kwan. For full interview, see
http://www2.oum.edu.my/v2/eoumtoday/2010/jan-issue66-2010/

Family : Tips Didik Anak 2

Tips 28
Pastikan anak-anak khatam al-Quran sebelum mencapai umur 10 tahun dan menghafal surah-surah lazim.

Tips 29
Amalkan membaca sepotong hadis sekurang-kurangnya sekali seminggu selepas solat berjamaah bersama keluarga (cth maghrib setiap sabtu). Boleh juga diberikan tugas kepada anak yang telah pandai membaca untuk mengetuai bacaaan terjemahan hadis kemudian bapa memainkan peranan menghuraikan hadis tersebut untuk diambil pengajaran daripadanya.


Tips 30
Luangkan masa untuk menghadiri majlis-majlis rasmi anjuran pihak-pihak berkenaan yang melibatkan anak-anak seperti mesyurat PIBG, majlis solat hajat sekolah, perasmian kem motivasi dan sebagainya.

Tips 31
Bawa anak-anak bercuti setahun sekali terutama ke tempat-tempat yang boleh memberikan nilai tambah ilmu seperti tempat bersejarah yang dapat diterangkan kepada mereka kebesaran dan keagungan ciptaan Allah.

Tips 32
Mainkan alunan zikir-zikir atau ayat-ayat al-Quran dalam kereta sekiranya membawa anak bersama. Setidak-tidaknya memilih siaran radio yang mementingkan info dan input kerohanian seperti memainkan lagu-lagu nasyid dan tazkirah.

Tips 33
Luangkan masa untuk menikmati makanan bersama anak-anak sekali sehari (makan malam) atau paling kurang seminggu tiga kali bagi mereka yang selalu traveling atau terlalu sibuk dengan kerja. Minta anak-anak (secara bergilir-gilir) mengetuai bacaan doa makan.

Tips 34
Ajar anak-anak untuk sama-sama menyambut dan meraikan tetamu. Elok diadakan sesi taaruf (pengenalan diri) ringkas untuk memperkenalkan tetamu kepada anak. Jangan sesekali membiarkan anak merasakan diri mereka tidak penting dalam keluarga dengan berkurung di dalam bilik atau melakukan aktiviti sendirian.

Tips 35
Minta anak-anak untuk memilih, membalut, membuat dekorasi hadiah yang ingin diberikan kepada relatif, sahabat atau siapa sahaja yang akan dikunjungi.

Tips 36
Luangkan masa untuk anak berkongsi sesuatu dapatan, kemahiran atau ilmu baru sama ada dari sekolah, buku yang dibaca atau dari mana-mana sumber yang lain. Contohnya meminta anak melakukan simulasi guru mengajar, atau kerja kumpulan bagi menunjukkan cara mereka mendapatkan ilmu tersebut. Berikan galakan dan penghargaan.

Tips 37
Ingatkan anak-anak sekurang-kurangnya sekali sehari, untuk melakukan ibadah khusus (walaupun mereka telah melakukannya, peringatan perlu dibudayakan) seperti solat, zikir atau melakukan taat kepada Allah yang lain seperti menutup aurat, mentaati ibubapa, guru, alim ulama dan orang-orang tua.

Tips 38
Alunkan bersama anak (selepas solat berjemaah) zikir-zikir tertentu seperti zikir munajat atau wirid selepas solat dan lain-lain. Anak-anak akan membesar dalam budaya yang sangat positif iman ini, insyaAllah.

Tips 39
Sediakan hiburan yang mendidik anak ketika membawa mereka bersama dalam kereta. Contohnya memainkan zikir, doa, lagu nasyid atau hiburan yang bersifat motivasi dan pendidikan.

Tips 40
Sekiranya anda ingin memberi hadiah kepada kumpulan kanak-kanak yang ramai, contoh pada hari-hari perayaan, jadikan anak anda sebagai penerima hadiah yang pertama.

Tips 41
Langgan satu majalah khusus bagi anak anda yang akan diterimanya secara berkala melalui perkhidmatan pos.

Tips 42
Tanamkan ke dalam jiwa anak-anak satu budaya dan gantikannya dengan budaya yang baru sekiranya ia telah menjadi sebati dalam jiwa. Contoh budaya memberi salam. Setelah budaya tersebut sebati dalam jiwa anak, tambahkan dengan satu budaya baru, contohnya mengucapkan terima kasih, seterusnya budaya membaca dan pelbagai nilai tambah diri yang lain.

Tips 43
Berikan anak-anak tanggungjawab yang mampu dipikul olehnya mengikut kesesuaian peringkat umur.

Tips 44
Tanam dalam jiwa anak-anak betapa pentingnya kebersihan. Amanahkan satu-satu kawasan dalam rumah bagi setiap anak memantau kebersihannya.

Tips 45
Cabar minda anak-anak dengan perkara-perkara yang dapat membangkitkan daya kreativiti mereka. Contoh selalu berteka teki dan sama-sama mencari jawapan, atau mengubah sesuatu yang telah terpakai menjadi satu ciptaan baru dan sebagainya.


Sumber : IbnRajab Online

Family : Tips Didik Anak 1

Tips 1
Cari peluang untuk beritahu anak-anak supaya takut kepada Allah sekurang-kurangnya sekali sehari.

Tips 2
Tunjukkan kasih sayang kepada anak sekurang-kurangnya sekali sehari dengan niat yang ikhlas di dalam hati, sama ada melalui perbuatan atau terus berkata bahawa anda sayang kepada mereka.

Tips 3
Fahami kehendak dan perasaan anak dengan serius. Jangan sesekali tidak ambil indah dengan apa yang diluahkan oleh mereka.

Tips 4
Katakan “takpe” apabila anak tidak sengaja melakukan kesilapan. Sebaliknya anda perlu lebih berhati-hati agar tidak tersilap terutama di hadapan mereka.

Tips 5
Wujudkan sebuah buku penghargaan kepada anak. Catat setiap perkara baik pertama yang mereka lakukan. Seperti tarikh mula berkata “a”, meniarap, merangkak, berjalan, bersekolah, dapat no.1 dan sebagainya.

Tips 6
Senyum atau ketawa sederhana ketika anak buat ‘joke’ walaupun pada anda ia bukannya lawak mana.

Tips 7
Puji setiap percubaan baik yang dilakukan oleh anak tanpa menghiraukan keputusannya.

Tips 8
Ambil gambar hari pertama setiap permulaan sesi persekolahan anak kemudian abadikan kenangan tersebut dalam album berasingan.

Tips 9
Sentiasa cabar pengetahuan dan minda anak, hiburkan suasana itu dengan sama-sama mencari jawapan kepada cabaran tersebut.

Tips 10
Ingatkan anak agar selawat ke atas Rasulullah SAW sekurang-kurangnya setiap kali bangun dan ingin tidur.

Tips 11
Apabila anak tiada mood kerana kecewa tidak dapat berbuat sesuatu sebagaimana yang diharapkan, beritahu anak bahawa ‘tidak boleh’ atau ‘tidak dapat’ atau ‘tidak mampu’ itu bukanlah untuk selama-lamanya. Dengan latihan secara istiqamah (berterusan) dan bersungguh-sungguh, kemahiran baru akan diperolehi seterusnya merubah keadaan menjadi ‘boleh’ atau ‘dapat’ atau ‘mampu’ buat.

Tips 12
Elakkan berkata kepada anak “kan (ayah/ibu) dah bagitau! ianya…” sebaliknya katakan “kan (nama anak) dah tahu ianya….”

Tips 13
Katakan terima kasih secara sedar dari dalam hati atas ucapan baik atau penghargaan yang anak berikan kepada anda.

Tips 14
Jangan paksa anak meminati apa yang anda suka, sebaliknya bantu mereka kenali kelebihan pada diri di samping memberi galakan dan bantuan ke arah memperkayakan minat mereka itu. Setiap orang memiliki kelebihannya yang tersendiri.

Tips 15
Nyatakan secara terus terang setiap kali anda tidak suka terhadap tindakan anak. Memilih untuk diam sebagai langkah pencegahan bukan sahaja menjadikan anak untuk konfius sebaliknya mengajar mereka mengambil sikap sama apabila berselisih pendapat dengan anda.

Tips 16
Jangan biarkan anak tertidur dalam kemarahan, atau tidur dengan fikiran bahawa anda sedang marah kepadanya.

Tips 17
Jelaskan kepada anak bahawa setiap orang memang mempunyai pendapat dan pandangan yang berbeza. Hormatilah pandagan anak dan berilah teguran dengan hikmah sehingga pendapat mereka itu berada di jalan yang betul.

Tips 18
Jangan buka rahsia, kelemahan, kesilapan, sejarah hitam ataupun aib anak kepada orang lain walaupun adik beradiknya sendiri.

Tips 19

Bawa anak lelaki untuk sama-sama solat berjamaah di masjid atau surau. Luangkan masa untuk membawa seisi keluarga seminggu sekali solat jamaah di masjid atau sekurang-kurangnya pada hari-hari istimewa dalam kehidupan yang ada kaitan dengan anak.

Tips 20
Selalu ucapkan pesanan baik kepada anak di saat-saat perpisahan kemudian iringi dengan ucapan doa selamat seperti “Maassalamah, selamat tinggal atau lain-lain doa”.


Tips 21
Biarkan anak-anak terutama yang masih kecil itu menangis sekiranya mereka perlu. Mudah-mudahan ia tidak akan menjadikan ibu bapa menangis apabila mereka telah besar.

Tips 22
Wujudkan sebuah tin “saya boleh” untuk setiap anak. Biarkan anak menghias sendiri tin mereka mengikut citarasa. Setiap kali anak dapat menguasai sesuatu yang baru, anda buat sedikit catatan untuk dimasukkan ke dalam tin “saya boleh” berkenaan. Dari masa ke masa, ajak anak melihat pencapaian-pencapaian terbaik yang pernah diraihkannya.

Tips 23
Bantu anak menggambarkan (melalui lukisan, lakaran dll) tentang perasaan yang baru mereka kenali atau rasai. Bincang dengan anak apa yang membuatkan mereka berperasaan sebegitu.

Tips 24
Cuba untuk tidak sesekali membawa balik kerja anda ke rumah atau ke hadapan anak-anak. Lukiskan dalam minda satu garis pemisah di antara kehidupan pejabat (kerja) dan rumah (keluarga) anda.

Tips 25
Letakan gambar anak-anak di tempat-tempat istimewa seperti atas meja dalam bilik tidur, di ruangan tangga atau dalam wallet duit. Sekiranya anak terlihat, beritahu mereka betapa pentingnya mereka dalam hidup anda.

Tips 26
Biarkan anak melakukan sesuatu yang mereka rasa boleh membantu anda seperti menolong anda membuka pintu rumah, suiz lampu atau sehingga menekan butang lif (di tempat awam).

Tips 27
Apabila anda menyiapkan peralatan anak untuk berkelah, menyertai kem, balik ke asrama atau lain-lain, ingatlah untuk menulis sesuatu nota istimewa untuk dimasukkan bersama peralatan tersebut.

Sumber : IbnRajab Online